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Reblog ; Hollyjean
Saturday, September 18, 2010, 5:58 PM

Has been bloghopping again.. & i saw this..

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{By : HollyJean}

So here are my top 15 signs that He's Not The One:

1. He won't say you're his GF.
Does he still introduce you as a 'friend'? Does he think he'll lose street cred among his friends if he gave you any status in his life? Cut that line girl! Let him go.


2. He won’t meet your family or friends
Ok... within reason. Don't chuck this on him in the first few weeks. But if you two get serious, and he's adverse to any family related events ( for instance, a birthday party or something) then he may have commitment issues.


3. He's Close to The Ex
This used to be me... up to a couple of months ago. Mark and I were still doing coffees and lunches, and laughing on the phone every other day. I admit now, it was wrong. Even though we had no intention of getting back together, I should have put a greater distance between us.

I'm not saying be enemies with the ex, or pretend they don't exist! But the kind of closeness Mark & I had was not healthy and hindered any future relationships.

(Which is why I think that things really have a way of working themselves out. When I met GB, it was just the right timing... any earlier, and I might still have been too close to Mark. And this new relationship would not have had the clean, happy and very promising start it has had so far).


4. Your Gut Feel
You get a feeling in your stomach that tells you he isn’t right for you.


5. You get great news and he isn’t the first person you think to call.


6. He's Too Busy for you
He’s always too busy to make plans with you. He'll plan everything else in his schedule, like a diving trip, a beer night.... a new hobby. But when it comes to you, you feel like you're getting the leftovers, if his other plans fall through.


7. You Don't Miss Him
You don't think of him fondly or miss him when he's not around.


8. He SAYS he's not ready to be in a relationship
OK, so he's had a bad past, been hurt badly before... oh boo freaking hoo! If he thinks he's not ready to be in a relationship, then he definitely shouldn't be in one. Dump him, unless you want to be the girl he sleeps around with until he finds some other girl that he suddenly wants to be in a relationship with.


9. You Don't Want To Be Around Him
The thought of spending the whole weekend together makes you both cringe.


10. You say “I love you” and suddenly it goes oh so quiet.
Of course you should not expect a response if you Say I Love You before he's ready. But some men.... will never be ready. Read my previous post - Never Say I Love You First.


11. No Nesting!
If you leave something small at his place, like a bracelet or hair band... he gives it back to you immediately the next time he sees you.


12. Eyes Roll
Like a decade ago, the nerdy me who still read books just for fun... read that psychologists could gauge whether a couple would last or not... based on watching their body language while they were in a room together.

If a partner rolls his/her eyes at the other. Not in a playful way.. but in the kind of way where your partner has put you off and he's not even looking at you.. but you still roll your eyes.


13. He Doesn't Talk
Instead of telling you why he’s upset, he reacts by doing something to upset you or storms out of the room during an argument.


14. You Don't Trust Him
Especially from the very start. I mean.. trust takes time to build.. but some men, from the very start, kind of leave you questioning and suspicious.... it's an awful feeling! If he makes you feel like this... then he's not the one. The One that is right for you should make you feel contented, protected and secure... and also make you feel like you want to give him that same feeling too.


15. You don't feel a spark
I know some of you think I live in a fairy tale La La land... but I still do believe that when you meet THE ONE, you get butterflies... you feel an unexplainable surge on your Happiness meter. I've dated many good men before, but I somehow knew they were not for me, because I didn't feel that magic.

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I think that most of the points are quite true but, i wanna add one more..

16. He doesn't introduce you to his friends.

Which is quite similar to point 1.. But, it is still a point.

Alright, back to bloghopping now. Bye (: